tmeet - Forum - cheaters

Forgot My Password

tmeet - Forum - cheaters

Discussion Forum Index / Love, Sex and Relationships / cheaters
Pages: - [ 1 ] -

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 08:42 AM

So we all know about cheaters, we've all been there or done that at some point (if you haven't then you're lucky lol).

What are your personal opinions on cheaters? (Don�t just say good or bad) Ever been cheated on? Ever cheated?

Do you think there should be any exceptions to the well taught morals of not cheating on your partner?

Chat people...I�m bored!

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 08:43 AM

wow...i said cheated way too many times in that one post

Posts:317
Rank: Administrator
Posted: May 03 2006 at 11:58 AM

	Quote: Jan_na
	Do you think there should be any exceptions to the well taught morals of not cheating on your partner?

Let me ask you a question: let's say your guy cheats on you, you forgive him (for whatever reason), you two are still together. Sometime later you feel a temptation that results in you cheating on him. Do you feel morally equivalent to him now? In other words, is it right to cheat on a partner who's cheated on you?

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:06 PM

lol answer my question with a question! tsk tsk.

No, personally I do not think it is right. If you were hurt by the actions of your partner then what would possess you to make another person hurt the way they hurt you. If your relationship is then based on lies and revenge, well then it is not a healthy relationship and I highly doubt that the trust would be strong enough between the two partners to then consider the situation a clean slate, or "morally equivalent" as you said. It seems more logical to simple end whatever remnants of the relationship that there are rather than to continue hurting each other.

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:07 PM

Posts:317
Rank: Administrator
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:11 PM

Then I think you answered your own question. The only situation that any person would consider cheating to be...well...less than horrible is if the partner previously cheated on that person. I can't think of any other situation. By the way, I completely agree with you.

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:29 PM

lol i didn't mean it as a question I wanted answered, i simply meant it in terms of opinion and discussion. Something i opened up for debate lol

Posts:317
Rank: Administrator
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:57 PM

Yeah I know. Just statem my opinion lol

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 12:57 PM

in that case, it's much appreciated

40 / Female

Posts:1278
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 01:52 PM

definitions of cheaters------ insecure people, they always need more to "prove" themselves.. being insecure sux and a big punishment alrdy

39 / Female

Posts:46
Rank: Regular
Posted: May 03 2006 at 02:04 PM

all i gotta say is that two wrongs dont make a right and as for revenge...even though it might be satisfactory...that feeling is only temporary.

Posts:567
Rank: God
Posted: May 03 2006 at 02:30 PM

	Quote: Tatianachka
	all i gotta say is that two wrongs dont make a right and as for revenge...even though it might be satisfactory...that feeling is only temporary.

Well said.

Cheating creates various dynamics in relationships that usually makes it faulter. I can not relate to the experience of cheating or being cheated on since I have never encountered that myself, however judging by what my close friends went through, the trust level is never there again, also every fight/argument will escalate when cheating is reminded. Also, my personal belief is that if you felt the need and desire to cheat, you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. The least that you can offer your partner is honesty and integrity, if these two qualities are not present, than a fair relationship doesn't exist.

I've never had the desire to cheat on my ex, it is true what they say, when you are in love, you ignore others to a point where you don't notice them. You find your fullfilment in your partner and the rest simply don't come close or just don't matter.

These are my .02 cents on the issue.

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 02:40 PM

Completely agree ^^ with The_icepick. If you feel the need to cheat, it is best to end that which you already have and move on. This way the hurt isn't posed as a problem of truth. If the coupld does stay together, then there is never that level of trust again, even if it seems it for a while there are always issues and if an argument arises then it is just spare amo really...not exactly you're healthy relationship lol.

And although i agree about the idea of love making you blind to all else, but it should be more than that, it's a respect for your partner and the integrity of the relationship...it's not all games if you're already together. If you've made the commitment, the decision to call it a relationship you might as well be honest, or if you can't... then end it.

Posts:567
Rank: God
Posted: May 03 2006 at 02:58 PM

Completely agree ^^ with The_icepick. If you feel the need to cheat, it is best to end that which you already have and move on. This way the hurt isn't posed as a problem of truth. If the coupld does stay together, then there is never that level of trust again, even if it seems it for a while there are always issues and if an argument arises then it is just spare amo really...not exactly you're healthy relationship lol.

And although i agree about the idea of love making you blind to all else, but it should be more than that, it's a respect for your partner and the integrity of the relationship...it's not all games if you're already together. If you've made the commitment, the decision to call it a relationship you might as well be honest, or if you can't... then end it.

You and I seem to agree on a few things lately lol...

The truth of the matter is, you are living your life once, and thus you should only be involved with people that are making you happy, making you stronger and pushing you towards your goals. I know people that are involved just to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or just for the sex that they could get. What I learned from my past experiences, is that you always keep looking around because you are not fully satisfied with what you currently have. My suggestion to all of you, since I am one of the oldest members here....is get into a relatinship with a person you really like...otherwise your wasting your time and their time

38 / Female

Posts:1235
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 03:44 PM

Cheating is digsuting. If anyone for any reason reached the point where they dont feel like staying with that someone any longer then i would suggest a break up. Like y go through the hassle of cheating and risking getting cought, then sacrificing relations, and ur image... ++ its such a terrible feeling. It happened to me once sorta..and im definitly not letting it happen to me again!

39 / Female

Posts:1601
Rank: Moderator
Posted: May 03 2006 at 06:33 PM

Ok I didn't read your post because I'm too lazy right now but I HATE HATE HATE CHEATERS! Honestly if a guy ever cheats on me thats in no second chances..

37 / Female

Posts:1065
Rank: SuperGod
Posted: May 03 2006 at 06:34 PM

i think the same way lol.

Pages: - [ 1 ] -

Untitled Document